I shared with you about my daughter’s close, 15 year old friend Ashlyn who is battling a rare cancer. You can read that previous blog post here.
Today’s post is to give you insight into how we coach our kids to be there for a friend- even if it’s scary, a journey through the unknown, or requires attributes of which they are not yet comfortable nor confident.
Please note: this applies to you teaching your kids…but it starts with you believing this and living this out.
Expect to Hear. Trust. Obey.
This is something my kids have heard me say. They have been a part of living out this principle with me as I’ve felt the Holy Spirit’s promptings to go, do, or just be.
But in times like this, when it’s their own friend who is hurting, it becomes more personal.
At times like this, we as parents, have the incredible opportunity and responsibility to be intentional to point them to Christ. To point them to a stance of expecting to hear the Holy Spirit guide them. He is that still, small voice that will reveal particular persons and needs. He is the One who gives creative ideas, specific thoughts, and perfect timing.
God knows Ashlyn’s needs. He wants to use people to meet those needs. He wants His people to be her prayer support. #prayforAshlyn. So my conversation with my daughter might go something like this:
“Laura, as a Believer, you have direct access to the Lord speaking to you. Expect to hear Him give you ideas for being there for Ashlyn. He will give you ideas of specific ways to minister. He’ll give you supernatural insight into the needs she has and ways that you can meet those needs. When you have an idea, trust that it is from Him. Obey right away knowing His timing is just right and He wants to use you. And then…leave the results to Him, not second guessing anything.”
Here are specific promptings to her heart.
- While eating birthday breakfast at Cracker Barrell with her dad. “Get her that stuffed horse.” Ashlyn loves horses.
- Beautify and personalize her hospital room
- Print pictures of her with friends laughing
- Ashlyn was unable to come to Laura’s birthday party because of beginning her first round of chemo.
- Make a banner for her hospital room
- Have friends sign it at your party.
- Forge some of her favorite celebrities’ signatures on it.
- Invite her brothers, to lighten the load of their mom and give them some much needed fun.
- Have the friends pray together AT the party. Put the brothers in the middle and pray over them.
- Go visit her in the hospital. Hug her. Be there for her. Take her the banner, pictures, cards.
- Offer to just go sit and be. Watch a movie with her. Don’t force conversation…just be present.
- Write a card. Include pictures in it.
- Pray right now. Pray for her with your family.
Here I am, Lord. Send me.
When the Holy Spirit puts someone on your mind and gives a specific idea, are you quick to banter, like this…
- “That’s a ridiculous idea”
- “Someone else will do that”
- “I don’t know if I’m close enough to her to do that”
- “What if I’m laughed at?”
- “What if the timing is terrible?”
- “What if I’m in the way?”
- “What if I’m embarrassed?”
We question the very idea that God placed on our minds. We let our insecurities keep us from going, doing, and just being there. Our questions are evidence of our doubt. They reveal our lack of belief that God is speaking and wants to use us!
We do that as adults. Our focus in on ourselves and our insecurities. Only when our focus is off of ourselves can we be free to say, “Yes, Lord. Here I am. Send me.”
This is how their walk with the Lord becomes their own.
Do you recall me quoting Stephanie, the author of the Bible study Believe, “The way to grow spiritually is to believe,”
This very act of them believing and doing over and over IS the way to grow spiritually. This is how their walk with the Lord becomes their own.
Such a sensitive and holy trust.
As a mom, I want to first be expecting to hear my Lord speak to me regarding specific people, needs, opportunities, and creative ideas. I want to make sure in this journey that I’m helping my daughter to rely on her Lord, the same One that I love and serve and hear.
I also want to make sure that my daughter and I both learn to leave the results of our obedience to the Lord, not second guessing, or needing validation. Obey- needing no approval from anyone. We are growing in our walk with the Lord by the faith demonstrated as we personally walk in obedience.
I want to help her in being obedient, by supporting her and helping her, by driving her… bystopping my world to enter her world – a journey through the unknown with a friend she loves. Entering her world and seeing through her eyes.
Have you been on the receiving end of someone obeying the Lord’s promptings? Share with us.
Rhonda “StoptheWorld”appliestopraying,doing,andjustbeingtheretoo ellis