The following is a copy/paste of my Facebook post. I think I’ll do this every now and then. “Facebook Funnies” – posts from my own Facebook page that seem to have struck a funny bone.
This one is from yesterday.
I don’t want to embarrass the lovely lady giving me a pedicure. I think she may be new…or perhaps she just thinks I’m a former gymnast. I’m quite sure I shouldn’t be doing a high kick as she scrubs my heels.
Ponderings Behind the Post.
You see the above post and photo. You chuckle. Of course, that’s one of my goals…to make my FB friends laugh. To me, the author, the mother, I see much more in that photo. I see laughter and fun times. I see the results of God at work in me, changing me, and helping me to enjoy the little things in life and learning to delight in the unique beauty of each child.
Appreciating the heart and unique beauty of each child.
Laura, my daughter, loves to be with people and loves laughter. Being transparent here…sometimes I’d rather organize something while she enjoys life around me. This photo is from a few weeks ago, taken at a time when the youth group gathered lots of items to pack up for Operation Christmas Child boxes. I was busy organizing the supplies on multiple tables for our assembly line. This picture is me pausing a moment, putting aside my own agenda – an important and needed task, to enter her world…to dress in playful costumes, laugh, make silly poses, and basically capture some straight cray photos with her in the “I-photo booth.”
I don’t know about you, but I find myself squelching certain kids or certain attributes within my children by unknowingly putting them in a box…MY box, When this happens over and over, we hurt our children. We drive distance between their heart and ours.
We might, perhaaaappps… not let them wear silver sparkly Toms shoes with a gown to a formal event or purple Converse tennis shoes with a dress on Sunday morning. (Gasp!) Why? Because that’s our box. Wait… And perhaps underneath this decision, if we dig deep, we may see that we are concerned with what people think about us. Image.What I’m learning is that this very thing could wound my child’s heart. Not allowing them to be them. Reigning in too tightly. Not seeing the beauty in how they think and are. I recall the Bible says, “…Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.”
But, hallelujah, as a Believer we have direct access to the Holy Spirit who gives supernatural insight and discernment as we ask. Through our earnest desire to have our hearts connected with our kids, we can seek exposure of our own blind spots – the very things we are doing that “provoke a child to wrath.” Ephesians 6:4 actually says we, the parents, provoke our children to wrath.
- Colossians 3:21 (NIV) Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
- Colossians 3:21 (NASB) Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.
The Holy Spirit seeks to do a work in our hearts. And, He did just that in my life with allowing a different way to adorn her feet (LOL)… and embracing it. Isn’t she beautiful. I delight in the touch of flare that she has. And, quite frankly, I believe I was heading towards “exasperating” my child to “lose heart” had the Lord not changed me.
Back to the Facebook Funny. The good news is that, despite the leg lift that revealed aging pains in my hip joint, we laughed and carried on, and we ended up with pretty, painted toe nails, and more importantly for me…smooth heels. And, someone walked away with just the perfect touch of “Laura Flare” with her bright orange, glow-in-the-dark nails. They are fabulous!
I’d say it was a fun day! And, to have the heart of my child… well, in a word… Mama Liiiiike.
What are some ideas you have for being totally “present” with your children to enter their world?
Rhonda it’sHARDtogettimealonewithONEchild,butMamaLikewhenIdo ellis